Thoughts From a Single Parent of a Great Kid
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A single parent describes the challenges and joys of raising a child with
a special health care need. This page will describe the challenges of finding a
diagnosis; dealing with work, school, and home life; rising to the occasion; and
seeing and providing opportunities.
Finding the Diagnosis
My experience with single parenting a child with special needs child has
been both challenging and incredibly rewarding.
My now almost eight year old son was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome
and ADHD at four years old. I remember noticing something that I couldn't quite put
my finger on during his second year. It wasn't until I was in school to become a
Registered Nurse that that "something" turned into a gut feeling that my child was
very likely on the Autism Spectrum. I requested a referral to see a Developmental
Pediatrician and the road to Treatment and Intervention began.
Challenges of Work, School, and Home Life
Juggling both of our busy work and school schedules has been one of the
challenges I've faced. It has gotten easier over the years, but I would certainly
not be where I am today (successful career as an RN, looking forward to Graduate
School) without the love and support of friends and family.
“Meltdowns” have been another, often difficult, challenge to handle as a
single parent to come up. I can recall many times when I longed for someone to take
over, giving me a break durning particularly rough times. Sometimes I would daydream
about what a “two- parent” household would be like.
Rising to the Occasion
I realize today, that even though I feel like I've made some mistakes over
the years, I chose to rise to the occasion and have been an advocate for my son.
Being an advocate is not a job that requires a partner, it requires passion. This
great, yet very challenging experience has taught me so much about myself and my
capabilities.
Opportunities
I've been blessed with an opportunity to see the world through another set
of eyes. I find so much joy in watching my son inquire and discover. His love of
learning is unstoppable, and it is such a blessing. I will continue to do all I can
to see that he has every opportunity for success.
~Jessica Ferguson
~Jessica Ferguson
Authors & Reviewers
Initial publication: February 2014; last update/revision: February 2014
Current Authors and Reviewers:
Author: | Jessica Ferguson |
Reviewers: | Tina Persels |
Gina Pola-Money |